Wednesday, March 3, 2010

There's a reason the heart is an organ measured in rhythms

I've been reading the Modern Love column featured in the New York Times. They are so sweet and bring me to tears, each one of them!

"A Joint Account That Underwrites Our Marriage" by David Sarasohn is a wonderful, insightful look at his own marriage to his wife, and how they have survived after so many couples around them broke up. Its really an amazing piece and brings up a lot of the debate, ideas, and conversations that surround marriage today: My favorite passage is below:

"The appeal of the alternative is everywhere. In popular culture, predictability seems like a bear market compared with possibility, and falling into a pattern is the opposite of falling in love. But if you stay married long enough to make people speculate about your religious beliefs, you come to see that patterns are the point; there’s a reason the heart is an organ measured in rhythms.

Being single is all about the future, about the person you’re going to meet at Starbucks or after answering the next scientific compatibility questionnaire. Being married, after a certain point, is about the past, about a steadily growing history of moments that provide a confidence of comfort, an asset that compounds over time. What you share is what you’ve shared, and measuring your communal property in decades puts you in a freakishly high bracket."

Six months on Friday!


Melissa said...

I love that "being single is about the future and being married is about the past and making history."

llbfromvb said...

i dont know about you, but I feel like the 6 months have just blown by -- in a fabulous, growing, adventurous, love- filled way that I couldn't have ever imagined pre-September 09. I hope you take a break from school insanity and JM takes a break from his crazy job and you two just have a special night - it's an anniversary to definitely celebrate! xoxo

brideonashoestring said...

I loved that article. And I love the NYTimes Modern Love column as well. I am glad I am not the only one.